I think it’s safe to say that although all crossdressers feel a need to dress in female attire it is also safe to say there is a lot of variation within that classification. Some men might wear pantyhose under their clothes once in a while. Others feel they must dress fully as a woman at all times. At one time it concerned me that it seemed that most cross-dressers I became aware of on the internet that appeared to be similar to me seemed to quickly accelerate their crossdressing from occasional closeted dressing to an obsessive compulsion to do and be everything female. I feel bad for the people in their lives who may have been hurt by the promises and commitments that were broken as well as the negative reputation that all crossdresser are sometimes painted with. However, over the past few years I seem to have become aware of a large segment of the cross-dressing population that appears to be able to hold the balance between their male life and experiencing their feminine side.
This has been what I’ve always strived for. I love my wife and kids. I love being a husband and father. I honestly like doing the guy things that I do. Yet sometimes I find myself giving my feminine side too much attention and need to make sure I take stock and give the other parts of my life the time it deserves. I do my best to only take the opportunities to dress as they present themselves naturally, rather than alter my schedule to find time to dress. This might mean that I don’t dress for a few months at a time but I also might get to dress a few times in the same month. I try to make sure that I don’t take time away from the family. I also try to not use “family money” to support my hobby. Crossdressing can get expensive so I try to use only money I’ve saved or made on the side and not part of the family budget.
I think it’s natural for a wife to view her husband’s crossdressing as a shortcoming on her part. As if she wasn’t pretty enough to appease him. Even when it is known that a man’s desire to dress in feminine clothing usually starts at a very young age wives tend to take it personally. I sincerely think my wife is the most beautiful and feminine creature on the earth and I make sure in my words and actions that she knows it.
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